Pay attention to love warning lights

【Couples Growth Camp‧Testimony Sharing】

▲Coming to the couples growth camp, every couple found the key to warming up their love! Ruilun and Yiyin (middle, back row) are very grateful for the teaching and support of lecturers Guo Yuanpei and Liu Yongling (front row, left).

We have been married for thirteen years. We are engaged in the same industry and work and live together. However, the dull years have worn away each other's love, and complaints and pressure have become coexisting memories.

We may seem happy on the outside, with a pair of beautiful children and an enviable job, but the reality is: we no longer continue what the other person says, let alone be moved by the other person's smile. We often quarrel over trivial matters, and any slight disturbance can turn into a big quarrel. All that remains between us is tremendous pressure and despair for each other.

At this time, I suddenly discovered that several couples and friends around me were also facing marital difficulties and even started to negotiate for divorce. This makes us very vigilant. It turns out that "our love has turned yellow and is in danger"...

The husband said, "It's great that we can finally have a long talk."

I feel so exhausted mentally from making so many noises about trivial matters every day! Yiyin kept questioning me about my expectations for marriage and my vision for life. It makes me frustrated. In fact, I never thought about these things and thought there was no problem between us. I couldn't bear it and just wanted to get over it, hoping that everything would return to normal. One day after a big fight, Yiyin actually ran away from home. This had never happened before. I suddenly realized that the situation was serious - I could lose this marriage at any time.

Coming to the KRC "Couples Growth Camp" was a turning point for me; it helped me understand the role that I, as a husband, should play in a marriage, and rekindled the love between us. The teacher reminded us to rethink why we fell in love with each other thirteen years ago and restored our original love. The best thing is that I learned how to communicate directly with Yiyin and had a long talk with her. It was so fresh! I also learned to find myself, discover who I am, and understand the purpose and vision of my life and marriage.

Marriage requires constant attention and energy, and you should never take what the other person does for granted. A successful marriage requires both parties to grow and move toward the same goals!Although this journey is long and sometimes difficult, as long as our hearts are closely connected, I believe there will be joy.

My wife said, "Preparing your heart is more important than communication."

Growing up in a traditional family, I was required to be quiet and obedient, and gradually developed a repressed personality. It was only after God healed me that I regained my confidence. The first four or five years I met Ruilan, life was wonderful. He gave me a lot of room to grow and find my niche. At that time, I had to move from New York to Philadelphia alone. Whether it was finding an apartment, finding a moving company, or packing my luggage, I had to do everything by myself. Ruilan didn't move in until everything was settled. Whether it is buying the first house, the second house, opening the first dental office, the second house, the third house, or even the birth of two children, it is the same pattern.

Thank God, these precious experiences have made me who I am today, knowing how to rely solely on God and face challenges with faith. However, many problems arose between us as husband and wife. I began to hope that Raylan would stop caring about his own feelings and just do what I thought was "right." We look perfect on the outside, but we don’t feel the same way on the inside. I found many "wrong" things in my life that needed to be improved, so I kept quarreling with him and "confronting" him directly, which made the marriage relationship very tense and full of gunpowder.

The teachings of two teachers, Mr. and Mrs. Guo Yuanpei and Liu Yongling, helped me understand that communication skills are just a tool to express ideas. More importantly, I must be prepared and prepared before communicating.In the past, I always wanted to express myself through my own impulses, but I never thought about how God wanted me to do it. After attending the couple’s growth camp, I prayed without losing heart every day, asking God to restore peace in my family. I also thanked God for His mercy, which allowed us to rekindle the spark of love and see that the problem was not as hopeless as we imagined. I believe that God’s hand will continue to support me in the future journey of marriage. He wants me to let go and completely surrender to His guidance.