If you want to love, you cannot be mediocre!

【I feel very single today】

Fangfang has strong working ability, clean and tidy work, and is well-groomed and charming. Some people will call her "eldest sister". With Fangfang's conditions, people always guess that there must be many suitors around her.

"No!" she replied affirmatively.

"Why?"

"Because men nowadays are very timid."

Really earned

Later, the eldest sister met an American older brother on the Internet. He had been divorced once and had a daughter and a granddaughter. After the eldest sister married the eldest brother, it was natural for her to become a ready-made grandmother. I asked Fangfang why she married her eldest brother? "Because he is interesting!" I am quite satisfied with this answer and I understand it quite well. Indeed, most Chinese men have a desire for control and power; if their wives are too capable, they will always feel that they are short. The foreigner elder brother admired Fangfang's independence very much, and after marrying her, he even enjoyed the traditional service of Chinese women who worked hard and never complained. In short, the eldest brother really made a profit.

The eldest brother is tall and handsome, and it’s hard to tell that he is over fifty. Fangfang told me that when they were walking in their residential community in Kaohsiung, a coffee shop proprietress said in front of the couple:

"Hey! How about I be your dick?"

"Okay, but you have to buy us a house first, and then we'll have a car for each of us." The boss replied calmly.

"These are the benefits of being a second child!"

"Oh! Our family's rules are different." It seems that the title of "eldest sister" is not in vain.

Fangfang quit her prosperous job for her eldest brother, and used her savings to pay off a pile of credit card debt owed by her eldest brother. She did all this to help her eldest brother face another spring in his life. I once stayed with them for a few days, and finally understood that without the eldest sister, the eldest brother would really be dysfunctional. This was a bit scary for me as a single person, but my eldest sister said: "If you have someone you love who can be taken care of by you, you will be very happy."

It's also happiness

Fangfang is really considerate in taking care of her eldest brother. She will wash the fruit, cut it, put it on a plate, seal it with plastic wrap, put it in the refrigerator to chill, and then give it to her eldest brother to eat.

"Can't he cut his own fruit?"

"Yes, but he doesn't know how to wash the fruit. There are so many pesticides in Taiwan, and if he gets sick after eating them, isn't it my unlucky fate to have to take care of him?"

"Can't he make coffee?"

"Yes, but it will be very strong for him. Drink a large pot of it every day, and if there is a problem... I won't be the one to deal with it, so I might as well make it for him to drink."

The image of my dad taking care of my mom couldn't help but come to mind. Shopping for groceries, cooking, laundry, and mopping the floor, all with one hand, and said: "You eat your food, sleep your sleep, and don't worry about anything else!" Although it was not in a sweet tone; however, I think Mom is also very happy!

Let him show off enough

The eldest brother likes to sing very much. One of his dreams when he was young was to be a rock singer. I don’t know since when, my eldest brother often stopped in the bar, playing and singing with the boss until two or three o’clock in the night. Fangfang asked me that day: "Am I asking too much of him? When I married him, I didn't want to marry a rock singer." Fangfang told her elder brother that if he didn't come back from singing until late at night, he would leave. people. I told her that if a person loves something, banning it will have no effect. In fact, I wanted to tell her that she might as well just let him sing to her heart's content. Now that I know where the big brother is singing, I will sing together and compete with him! But I didn't say this "crazy" suggestion. I think every wife always has certain expectations for her husband, but expectations can sometimes bring pressure and even lead to disappointment. I am not a person involved, so I don’t know the extent of the agreement between them, but Fangfang is not a small-minded woman. Maybe the eldest brother has gone too far.

This reminds me of my brother, who was obsessed with making car models for a while. He often worked overtime and stayed up late at night to carry out production work. Of course, there was a lot of nagging from his sister-in-law. When the old man announced that there was a new car in the parking lot, I could see the satisfaction and pride. I thought, if my husband likes to make car models, I must throw a party for him! Let him show off enough. It’s strange, why don’t wives make good use of this alternative psychology? Perhaps, the burden of life has already wiped out creativity.

That day, my elder brother and Fangfang took me, following the back of the bar owner’s car, to a dark countryside in Pingtung with no village in front, no shop in the back, and a cemetery next door, separated by walls. The boss's wife is a local Hakka girl, and her brother opened a "log cabin" there. Let's call it a country club. A hut was built along the big banyan tree. There were several swings on the grass next to it for children to play. There were some beach tables and chairs lined up in the open space for adults to chat and drink beer.

Strings of neon lights flashed in front of my eyes... I noticed that my eldest brother's name was written on the blackboard. He was actually the resident singer at nine o'clock in the evening!

"He came here prepared for a long time, but he didn't dare to tell me." Fangfang smiled a little bitterly, but her expression was quite cheerful.

Thinking of the Sunday worship that morning, the way my eldest brother led hymns on the stage was completely different from the way he looks now! The eldest brother played the guitar and the boss played the keyboard. The two of them alternately rock and roll and country, chirping a long list of jokes in English; the two intoxicated foreigners found themselves in their dreams in this corner of a foreign land. ⋯⋯ But looking around, I really doubt whether those Oji-san and Obasan really understand? Or do you pretend to understand? This question was immediately revealed from the body language of an uncle wearing a thick gold necklace. Look at him waving his arms, looking like he's "entering the situation", eh! Regardless of whether he understands it or not, just follow the music.

Looking at Fangfang again, she is also swaying to the music. The children played with themselves, the adults chatted with each other, the eldest brother and the boss sang their own songs, and a dog named "Fei Zai" also barked a few times in response to the scene... If I hadn't been in this scene myself, it would be really difficult. Imagine this combination. During the intermission, the eldest brother came to Fangfang and said, "Can we sing until ten o'clock?" Fangfang looked at the sweaty eldest brother, then looked at me and said, "OK!" Both of us seemed to be excited. He breathed a sigh of relief at the same time.

Brother was so happy that night!

Fangfang's "letting go" of her elder brother is out of tolerance for love. Fangfang told me that my eldest brother is not a very smart person and is slow to learn new things. Sometimes he offends people without even realizing it, so he has to rely on Fangfang to clean up the mess.

"I feel like I've gotten a lot older!" Fangfang said leisurely. I want to ask her, growing old because of loving someone, is this also a kind of happiness, right?

Love is not a pastime

Many times, I often hear: "Just take it for fun, don't take it too seriously." Regarding this sentence, I have always felt that it is very contradictory. Because, if it was just for fun, you wouldn’t take it seriously in the first place! But some things must be taken seriously, otherwise it will always be lukewarm or lukewarm, and you will not be able to enjoy the flavor. Just like loving someone, you can't just treat it as a pastime. However, love in this world is limited after all. Except for some parents who are willing to continue to selflessly devote themselves to their children, the love between men and women often cannot withstand huge storms.

I particularly like what a certain pastor said at the wedding: "If you can't love her enough to die for her, don't marry her!" How many grooms have this kind of courage? I really don't know, but I do know that this is why great love stories are always gripping and are told over and over again, written over and over again, and performed over and over again. Because human beings are always yearning for love, and it is always the deepest need in their hearts.

How much capacity can a person have for love? How deep can love be? These "length × width × height" determine the carrying capacity of life. That night, when Fangfang was on the other end of the phone on the other side, she told me, who was used to being free, "Loving someone is sometimes very painful!" On this side, I can understand it to some extent.

Before falling asleep at night, I prayed to the Lord Jesus:

"Dear Lord, thank you for loving me to death. You are the most courageous groom in the universe! Your love makes me very satisfied and my life is very beautiful. Although sometimes, I also long for a life in the world. A specific "object" to be loved and to express love, but I know that You will not give me the second best. Therefore, I want to treasure this love as a sacrifice. Lord, my capacity for love is very limited. , please expand me and make my life more exciting and not mediocre. By the way, if you can, please let me be bolder and have the courage that comes from you, knowing that everything is safe with you. In the name of the Lord Jesus, amen!

Author profile

Miao Huitian, from Taiwan, is a hopeless romantic. After going through all kinds of life, he still retains his innocence, is full of longing for the future, loves literary creation, and currently lives in the eastern United States.