Happy couple conveys sexual blessings

Exclusive interview with Mr. and Mrs. Guo Yuanping and Liu Yongling

Interview Team: 2012 Taiwan KRC Interview Camp (Written by Huang Zuzhen, Wang Xiaolan, Wu Biyun, Lai Zhongshen, Deng Peizhen, Liu Guoxing Photography)

"Following each other like a shadow, husband and wife are in the same tune" is the first impression that Guo Yuanping and Liu Yongling give people. Faced with private issues between the sexes, this virtuous couple who are now grandparents took the lead in breaking through the traditional framework and talking about "sex" matters that most people avoid talking about, making this "no one teaches, no one" in the Chinese church world "Topics that no one dares to ask" have entered seminary classrooms, church podiums, and recently have been turned into words. The new book they co-authored, "Sexually Happy Couples", is presented in the form of questions and answers, answering every couple's most private but crucial "sex" questions one by one.

Mr. and Mrs. Kuo Yuan-Pei have held many couples growth camps and marriage lectures in North America, China, Taiwan and Malaysia. From the cases they have counseled, they have found that many couples' problems always revolve around the problem of "sexual" intimacy and face problems. , being ashamed to speak up, and having no way to ask for help, leading to the relationship between husband and wife drifting apart...

▲The new book jointly written by husband and wife Guo Yuanping and Liu Yongling - "Sexually Happy Couples" is presented in the form of questions and answers, answering each couple's most private but crucial "sex" questions one by one.

study without limit

As early as 1997, the couple entered the Bible University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia together to study Christian counseling, specializing in marriage and family. After obtaining their master's degrees in 2000, the two entered the American counseling organization "Starting Point" as an intern for two years. They also participated in actual counseling work and gradually accumulated rich clinical experience. They turned their experiences into words, adding to their knowledge on sexual intimacy between couples. The lack of it has caused considerable concern in the Chinese church. In fact, as early as 2004 and 2005, God had led the couple to participate in the American Association of Christian Counselors in the United States. At that time, they happened to meet the author of the book "When Two Become One" ─Sex therapists Max and Rachel Ma. After reading his book, Mr. and Mrs. Guo Yuandi hoped that this book could be translated into Chinese. The Max and his wife were extremely excited. They also expected that the Chinese version of "Intimate Couples" could bring benefits to the entire Chinese church. Come for updates and breakthroughs.

wonderful gift

As for the publication of the booklet "The Art of Loving and Being Loved" and the book "Sexually Happy Couples", it is because of the support of Pastor Su Wen'an, vice president of the American True Love Family Association, "True Love Family" magazine and the editor-in-chief of this magazine. encourage. Pastor Su encouraged the couple to compile a document on the cases of counseling families and intimate relationships between couples over the past ten years, and made it a focus topic in the July 2008 issue (Issue 42) of "True Love Family" magazine. Later, it was adapted into an exquisite and compact booklet, which was highly recognized by Chinese Christians. Since the November 2008 issue (Issue 44), it has begun to serialize the Q&A "Teacher Guo and Teacher Liu Mailbox" open to Chinese people around the world. During the publication period, it not only aroused enthusiastic response, but also received a large number of letters for help. There were various types of cases. After two or three years of correspondence, they started to compile it and finally published it in September 2012 - "Sexually Happy Couples" 》.

The following are frequently asked questions: "My wife always says she is too tired and has no interest in sex?" "Can't I enjoy the passion of my youth in the second half of my life when I am over fifty?" "I have never experienced an orgasm, but "I often pretend to have orgasms in front of my husband, should I tell him the truth?" The book "Sexual Blessings" collects more than 50 common sexual intimacy problems between couples and answers from the Bible to help readers regain sex in marriage. The beauty of intimacy allows us to better understand the purpose of God’s creation of marriage; they point out the truth of intimacy between husband and wife and the unity of body, mind and soul. They inject and pass on healthy and balanced sexual concepts to the next generation, allowing couples to have the courage to enjoy what God has given to people. The wonderful gift─sex.

▲During the publication of "Teacher Guo and Teacher Liu's Mailbox", not only did it arouse enthusiastic responses, but a large number of cases continued to pour in to ask for help. There were various types of cases. After two or three years of correspondence, the couple began to compile and classify them. , finally published his latest book in September 2012 - "Sexually Happy Couples".

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Break through the bondage

Many people question that it is difficult for the conservative and traditional Chinese church to talk about sexual issues. In addition, the church is generally deeply influenced by the early church father St. Augustine and believes that enjoying sexual pleasure and fun is sinful and unholy.

Regarding this point, Liu Yongling mentioned: Satan often uses people's ideas and social frameworks to distort the truth; people are accustomed to wrong ideas and are often deceived without being alert. Just like a living frog in water, because it is slowly heated, the frog is not alert until it is cooked. As this society gets used to specious truths, it is slowly being deceived. She gave an example: "Some people think that if we are an old couple, we still talk about sexual intimacy. Marriage is just about carrying on the family line. There is nothing about orgasm or sexual enjoyment." Therefore, If no one is the first to point out the importance of this link, the church may never touch it, let alone teach this difficult topic.

When it comes to "sexual intimacy," Guo Yuanping believes that we should return to the teachings of the Bible, because sex is originally a gift given by God to couples. It is beautiful and can be enjoyed. Genesis 2:24-25: "Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. They were both naked, and they were not ashamed." Sex is not inherently dirty. You can only do things that cannot be said, or things that have to be done secretly.

"We wrote "Sexually Blessed Couple" to challenge the myths about sexual concepts in traditional Chinese culture, hoping that readers will no longer be bound by traditional culture. God's intention in creating marriage is that couples can be committed to each other for life, forever and ever. He is a good friend who has been together for a lifetime, and a lover who expresses intimacy and passion every day." Guo Yuanti said with excitement, hoping that every couple will have a closer relationship with God, and the couple will also have a more harmonious relationship because of their love for God. and closeness, truly achieving the state of unity of body, mind and soul.

Happy to share

Guo Yuanping and Liu Yongling's example of loving each other and working together has also influenced their two children. They now raise their own children, have a happy family, and still have a beautiful relationship with their parents. Guo Yuanping mentioned that the key to maintaining a good relationship in the family lies in "good communication." As parents, we are still continuing to learn, hoping to subtly pass on the example of communication to our children. In addition to occasionally calling each other to greet each other, they and their children have also used e-mail to write letters home to their two sons and daughter-in-law every month in recent years. The content of the letters home is very free and diverse, including recalling why the couple came to the United States. , the most unforgettable things when I first fell in love, as well as my experiences in traveling, missionary work or speaking in various places. I have written nearly sixty letters home so far.

What is commendable is that the same e-mail box of Guo Yuanping and Liu Yongling is also open to everyone! As long as there are any issues that are difficult to discuss between husband and wife, you can write to them and ask them, and they will keep it confidential and reply one by one. Guo Yuanping and Liu Yongling also said that if any school or seminary is interested in offering relevant courses, they will be very happy to teach them. .

The new book "Blessed Couple" not only helps Chinese Christians, but Guo Yuanping also hopes to bring the same help to couples who have not believed in the Lord, because the truths and principles taught in it are applicable to every couple. "As long as God's spirit can enter the hearts of non-Christian couples through sincere prayer, open their hearts to learn forgiveness, and face themselves bravely, the relationship between husband and wife will definitely become more and more compatible." Liu Yongling believes that this is also part of their mission to spread the gospel. Big boost. If you are interested in the ministry and lectures of Guo Yuanping and Liu Yongling, please email to:georgeykuo777@gmail.com