a precious gift
"Morning Heart Shadow"
▲Zhao Hong’s (neutral) parents respect each child’s unique value and strengths. Their praise and true love established an intimate relationship of mutual respect and love between the Zhao Hong sisters.
"Young man, when you carry that schoolbag to school, you are not afraid of the sun or the wind and rain.
I'm just afraid that my husband will accuse me of being lazy, uneducated and unable to see my parents. "
This children's song that encourages children to read is actually a tragic song about the supremacy of reading. Children may not be afraid of wind and rain, or even be afraid of "head hanging from beams and cones stabbing buttocks", but they are afraid that they will not read well and will not be accepted by their parents. This is a very serious matter. Sad thing.
Only if you can read can you be successful?
China has advocated reading since ancient times. "Excellence in learning leads to officialdom" is a famous saying of Confucius. "Books have their own golden houses" comes from Emperor Chrysostom of the Northern Song Dynasty. The quality of reading has always been a measure of a person's value in Chinese society.
Reading itself is a good thing, but over-respecting it to the point of worshiping it will cause endless harm. The book "Long Live Reading" written by Zhao Zhiwei mentions that the mother of Yang Chi, the number one scholar in the Northern Song Dynasty, taught her sons (Yang Cha and Yang Chi) to study very strictly. She would beat her sons if they did not comply with the rules. The eldest son Yang Cha took the provincial examination and came in second place. When the person who reported the news came to her house, she was still sleeping. After hearing the news, she was not only unhappy, but also angry. She turned to the wall and said, "This child has no future and has been suppressed by others, which makes me lose face." . After Yang Cha returned home, his mother did not speak to him for a long time.
We often regard parents' love for their children as the most pure and selfless emotion in the world. Unfortunately, the primacy of reading creates an invisible wall between parents and their children. Many children often rely on the ladder of "good scores" to get over high walls and get a little acceptance and care from their parents.
Compared with Yang Cha and many children who are excellent at reading, I have lacked the high IQ that this society appreciates since I was a child. I remember on the first day of elementary school, I couldn’t even count from one to ten. I looked around during class and could not concentrate on listening. My academic performance was always poor in elementary school, junior high school and high school. In the eyes of teachers, I have always been a hopelessly stupid child. I failed the first college entrance examination, and my grades were disastrous: 45 points in Chinese, 12 points in history, and 20 points in mathematics. However, my parents generously gave a very precious gift to my stupid daughter who was not doing well in school. Whenever I think of it, I feel warm in my heart. It goes with me wherever I go. Its value increases with the years. No one in the world can steal it, because it is treasured in my heart. This precious gift is the true love my parents have for me. When I opened this gift, guess what I saw inside?
There is giving in true love
As a child, I loved reading storybooks or playing games with kids my own age. Although my academic performance was very poor, my parents did not force me to study hard. Instead, they gave me great freedom and time to play and read my own favorite storybooks. My parents' true love allowed me to spend a relaxed and happy childhood.
There is acceptance in true love
In the eyes of the world, I, a stupid child, was a disgrace to my parents, but my parents, who were highly educated, never considered me a disgrace to them. My parents do not measure my value by the quality of my studies. They believe that honesty, humility and loving character are more important than grades. I, the blessed dumb kid, didn't need high scores to win their acceptance, their acceptance came with no strings attached. In the true love of my parents, I am not afraid of the contempt and rolling eyes of the world, and it also allows me to deal with my own limitations calmly.
There is appreciation in true love
My parents believed that every child had unique values and strengths. My two younger sisters are exactly the opposite of me in terms of education. They are very qualified and have always been among the best in school. And I was a child who was eager to help with housework, and my parents often gave us sincere praise for our respective strengths. Their compliments helped my sisters and I see our own worth and appreciate each other’s strengths in others. The true love of our parents established an intimate relationship of mutual respect and love between us sisters.
There is trust in true love
My parents often let me do things independently and rarely expressed concern about my ability to do things. I failed the college entrance examination for the first time and stayed at home. One day I saw children carrying schoolbags to school downstairs, and my desire to go to school suddenly emerged in my heart. I told my parents my wish.
They did not express doubts or distrust in my bold ideas because of my poor academic performance and my disastrous failure in the college entrance examination. Instead, they helped me apply for the opportunity to repeat high school for two years. True trust is not that you believe you will succeed, but that you are not afraid of failure. My parents’ true love gave me the courage to try new challenges and gave me the chance to succeed.
There is respect in true love
During the second college entrance examination review, it was midsummer. The school opened a cram school for students taking the college entrance examination. There were more than 60 students in the class. They were immersed in various college entrance examination simulation questions all day long, even giving up breaks. This way of studying made me feel that I was getting twice the result with half the effort. I told my parents that I wanted to prepare for the college entrance examination at home. My teacher and my mother were colleagues, but my parents did not force me to attend cram school because of personal relationships and fully respected my choice.
The results of the second college entrance examination were announced and I was admitted to Tianjin Nankai University. This news shocked many people who knew me. Who could believe that a famously stupid student like me could get into college and later get a master's degree. The true love of my parents allowed me, a stupid kid, to transcend my own limitations and enter a vast world.
Over the years, I have received countless gifts from my parents, but true love is the most precious and priceless gift I have received, and it has benefited me throughout my life.
＊To practice the truth, please read the fourth cup of Life Supplement "Shadow of the Heart in the Dawn"