Life is not discounted

【I feel very single today】

For Jessie’s Baby Shower, I bought a very stylish short fur coat with red roses on the collar. God bless me, it was while shopping that my sharp eyes spotted the discounted price of three yuan and ninety-nine cents.

Still intoxicated with pride! Linda, who was wearing big earrings, exclaimed beside her: "I really hope that single people can find an excuse to have a singles show, and then they can also take the opportunity to have a honeymoon trip. At the worst, I can just go by myself!"

After listening to it, I really feel sorry for you! He immediately stood up and applauded warmly. No, the comfort and freedom of being single are worthy of loud congratulations and applause!

I think of a friend who has suffered from insomnia for a long time. For fear of disturbing her husband, she could only lie in bed, close her eyes and wait for dawn. I think this is a realistic portrayal of two people living together. In order to think about the other person, they have to put themselves aside and cater to the other person's needs. If there is still love in the middle, it is a kind of tenderness; if it has become a habit, it is helplessness; if it is nothing, it should be torture!

Unlike me, even if I have insomnia, I can still spend some time doing impromptu activities: sitting, walking, lying down, thinking, reading, drinking, writing, singing, praying... and then I can find sleep again. Continue to sleep in the second half of the cage.

Single nobles are happier

I am very lucky to grow up in this modern society, where everyone has their own things to be busy with. Although there are sometimes some interludes in emotional dramas, they have not become the main theme so far. I am neither a celebrity nor a star, so I don’t have to worry about a bunch of paparazzi following me around all day long. Even though sometimes we still need to face some caring greetings from relatives and friends, everyone knows it well; finding a good partner these days is like winning the lottery, how can it be so easy? Thank God, my head didn't get dizzy, and I didn't end up getting married for the sake of getting married.

It is said that a gold nest or a silver nest is not as good as your own little nest, especially in Boston where it is winter for most of the year. For subway people like me, going out is like going to the battlefield. I always have to be fully armed and tightly wrapped. Once you step into the house, you will always be eager to disarm from head to toe: scarf, gloves, hat, coat, trousers, socks, boots, put on a loose short-sleeved T-shirt, baggy soft cotton pants, and lie down casually Sitting on the lazy man's big round wicker chair, no one cares about it for how long. Why! What a refreshing experience!

Another advantage of being single is that when one person eats enough, the whole family is full. The little hungry pig in the stomach is also very easy to get rid of. It eats whatever I feed it. After you regain your senses, you can sigh with satisfaction, turn on the music, make a cup of hot tea, read some books and newspapers, immerse yourself in the warm and peaceful world, and say goodbye to the cold outside, right? This is life. "What is life?" What a great question! In the past, I often asked: "God, what are your plans for me? Why is it so easy for others to get married? Is it your will that I should be alone in this dusty world?" Will it keep going?"

My turf shines brighter

Gradually, I learned that sometimes God’s lack of answer is also an answer. As I walked, other people’s stories were also happening around me: a classmate had two front teeth knocked out by her husband and they separated; a colleague got divorced because her husband was addicted to gambling and alcoholism; a friend got divorced because of his status. The issue of residence was still holding up the marriage in name only; a couple who had been together for nine years and shared a cat suddenly went their separate ways. Many breakup plots that are more dramatic than those in movies and novels are constantly being played out in front of our ears... I can only wonder, didn't they love each other so much back then? From God’s non-answer, a dawn dawned and I found the answer. It turns out that when love in the world is linked to conditions, to paraphrase my mother: this kind of paper-like love, it will instantly become fragile and vulnerable.

Most people have the mentality that "neighbor's lawn is greener than their own." Among the neighbors with married house signs hanging around them, you can occasionally see some enviable green lawns. But honestly speaking, the one placed in front of my house is not bad at all! As time passed, I finally gained some wisdom; I began to appreciate it seriously, and the more I looked at it, the more I realized the gorgeous layers and fragrance.

I have an old classmate named Xiaofeng who vowed to get married before the age of twenty-eight. Another girlfriend came to the rescue and enthusiastically helped her apply for marriage. As a result, Xiaofeng got her wish and got married to the man who applied for marriage. Then she gave birth to two daughters by caesarean section, but they still could not occupy a place in her husband's family, which favored sons over daughters. It wasn't until she took the risk to give birth to the third child that she felt proud in her husband's family.

When we returned to Taiwan the summer before last, we arranged to meet at a coffee shop next to Banqiao subway station. Finally I saw that precious son. He burrowed into his mother's belly, begging for money to buy ice cream from the street. Of course the mother agreed, and the son also looked proud.

Before Xiaofeng could take her hand out of her pocket, she asked me, "Don't you want to get married yet?" I stared at the burnt blisters on the back of her hand, which were souvenirs from making cakes (she worked every day to supplement the family income). Riding a small fifty motorcycle and selling handmade cakes in the market).

My answer is: "How could your husband be willing to let you work so hard?" I admire Xiaofeng from the bottom of my heart for her hard work and hard work over the years, but to be honest, at this moment, I feel even more that my turf is shining brightly in the sun!

Singles are most afraid of being too weird

In this society where it is mainstream that men get married when they are older and women get married when they are older, women who are over the marriageable age but are not married are often called "old ladies". I think the term "old lady" is already a product of the feudal period and can be ignored. But when it comes to aging, there is a saying that goes well: "It's either more bitter or better." (Better or better) In fact, everyone will grow old. Aren't I also moving towards this title step by step? Instead of escaping like an ostrich, it is better to take it easy and soar like an eagle; growing old knowing your destiny is more exciting than being nervous.

In the population structure, a single person is also a complete individual; from the perspective of economic interests, it also increases a lot of tax revenue for the country, so please do not treat her or him differently.

However, the most taboo thing about being single is self-isolation and weird temper. I know a classic representative: just call her Sally. When she had a boyfriend (who was also a driver and porter), she always scolded him in front of everyone, so much so that even we couldn't sit still. In the end, her boyfriend ran away, and then continued to criticize various phenomena of instability in the United States after September 11... Every time after listening to her complaints, the whole person felt as if he had entered a black hole, and all the energy in his body was sucked away. It was really The vitality is severely damaged!

But Sally also has a saving grace, that is, she pays great attention to maintaining her figure. She said: "There are some things that others have that I don't have (referring to husband and children), but there are some things that others have that I can never have (referring to belly)." And I firmly believe that as a single, I can have more than just Just a flat belly. I believe that the best practitioners and beneficiaries of the spirit expressed in "The Great Harmony of Rites and Lucks" are single people.

A model of balance and satisfaction

In addition to friends, there are two types of people I like to date. The first is elders. I often visit a husband (80) and a wife (70) who are kind, humorous, transparent and have no pretensions. They told me that they most hope to be "natural" in front of juniors. In addition, they also asked me to "relax" among them. Every time they get together, they always make people feel like taking a breath of spring breeze, just like soaking in a hot bath, extremely comfortable. I told God, if there is such a turf, then we will make a decision!

The second type is junior. I also often dated a charming young man. I gave him the nickname "Little Milk Tea Prince" (because my parents are tea shop owners). Only nine months old, every inch of her body is fleshy and super cute. I am grateful to his parents for giving birth to such a little baby, so that as an aunt, I can enjoy his innocence and beauty with zero burden (no need to feed or change diapers), and watch him grow up miraculously day by day.

It is a kind of happiness to be pampered by elders, and it is not bad to be able to pamper younger ones? This experience of acceptance and giving is no less impressive than a romantic date between a man and a woman, and sometimes it can even make people feel more balanced and satisfied.

Among the many bachelors I admire, a man named Paul is the best example of balance and contentment. He wrote this in the Bible, Philippians 4:12: "...I have learned how to be content no matter what my circumstances are. I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound; whether to be full, Whether hungry, abundant, or lacking, I have learned the secret no matter what." Wow! This is indeed the highest realm of life for single nobles. Paul is indeed a great teacher who shows the way, because he then makes this secret known to the world. It turns out that the answer is the next sentence: "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" (verse 13). I hope that all singles in the world can work together to imitate Paul's unrestrained style of drawing on the source of life, and truly live out the genuine and uncompromised aristocratic qualities of singles.

Psalm 139, verses 9 and 10, reads: “If I spread out the wings of the morning and fly to the ends of the sea to live there, your hand will guide me, and your right hand will sustain me.” This psalm. It brings me great comfort, because when you and I were still in our mother's womb, God's eyes had already seen the day He had destined for us. It can be seen that the presence of God is absolutely beyond human imagination, not to mention that what can truly complete us is not marriage, but the plan God has planned for us from the beginning.

Once it comes, make peace with it. God keeps His word! What are you worried about?

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Miao Huitian, now living in Boston, is an art worker. I love painting, I love writing, and I love living the true quality of life.